They say grief changes you and it’s true. Something happens when you lose someone. The psychological toll that it takes on you is unquestionable. This is the big, scary truth about grief, there is no such thing as “getting over it”. The reality of grief is far different from what others see from the outside. It’s something internal that nobody else can see, and it’s impossible to explain to someone who has no idea what it is like. It’s a pain you can’t be cheered out of.
There is no instruction manual on how to cope with loss because everyone grieves differently. When you lose someone, you lose something different than everyone else that knew the person. Your healing won’t look like someone’s else healing and that is OK. As the darkest days of grief start to get less, the sun will rise again for you.
Cry whenever you need to. Scream. Shout. Lay on the floor. Sob in the shower. Be Still. Run. Walk. Create. Live your truth. Share without fear. Listen. Release your pain. Breathe. Be courageous. Throw away the map. Wander. Be real. Be compassionate. Read. Seek friendship. Be vulnerable. Don’t fear being broken. – Zoe Clark-Coates
Losing someone dear is certainly a life changer. The process of grief is another facet of that lost that you have to maneuver and I can honestly say whoever said, “time will heal”. Lied. Nonetheless thank you for your post helps me feel like I am not alone and that I don’t need to put up a strong front all the time.